Picture this situation with an open mind and attitude: the person you love and pine for suddenly becomes repulsive in your mind and cannot stand the sight of them. Pretty cliche scenario, I know, but how do you answer that question? Some say, if the two people are in a relationship, is to get OUT of the relationship. Why stay in a relationship if it is one-sided, or worse, there are no sides? I'm merely stating a hypothetical here. I, myself, am in no relationship, nor do I have repulsive feelings for someone I love whether it be a family member or friend. Listening to Kate Nash's "Foundations" brought this idea to mind. And I feel I should explore it.
The song is, on the outside, a break-up song. But after delving deep into the lyrics and watching the music video, my mind was overflowed with scenarios and ideas on how things like this come into play. Simply put, feelings change over the course of time. It happens, folks. Sad, but true. In any kind of relationship, whether it be a long-term committed one, an open one, or, hell, just a friendship, things tend to get repetitive, boring, and stale. It's our job to keep things fresh and on the move or else this will help , if not, the relationship is ultimately doomed. Thoughts of being annoying, distant, evasive, come into play. (I am also sounding like an anti-depressant commercial). But nevertheless, everyone has felt those feelings. In the end, we are all human. We make mistakes. We learn from them. And eventually, move the fuck on.
Which brings me back to the original question. What happens? It's hard to imagine someone you love not loving you back. Love is a brutal thing. In the beginning, love is supposed to give you butterflies, enjoyment, and inevitably happiness. But once love gets complicated, messy, and depressing, things are in need for a change. I'm not going to preach to you about relationships, because 1) I have no room to talk and 2) I don't know a damn thing about them. What I do know is that, we all get into arguments with our significant others, friends, family, co-workers, strangers on the street -- it's the human condition.
It's a scary thought to wake up one day and realize - wow, I don't really love this person. Why are they in my life? And worse, how to I get rid of them? Ugh, that hurt just typing that last part. "Getting rid of someone" is never an easy task, nor do you want to take part in it, but sadly, things like this happen. Things fall out of orbit, things that were placed apart collide into one another unexpectedly. And to think, maybe things that were placed apart SHOULD be put together. Maybe that will make the relationship work? In my opinion, in a working relationship, in order to keep things balanced, things are meant to be apart, not put together. Might be a dumb analogy, I know, but that's my personal opinion on the subject. Because sometimes, when things collide, they cause an explosion, and I'm not talking about the "feel-good-sparks-ignite-explosion", I'm talking about the kind of explosion that end in pain and confusion. And while they may be cool to look at from a distance, they sure do suck if you're involved. That's all I'm going to say.
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